The big shock came later. I froze as I opened the results of the test—turned out the baby is mine, indicating that my vasectomy might not have been successful.I’ve apologized numerous times for accusing her of being unfaithful, but I still haven’t confessed that I underwent a vasectomy. As a result, she’s become extremely withdrawn and is now thinking about ending our marriage. She believes I cared more about blaming her than supporting her during the pregnancy.

Now I’m torn—should I come clean about the vasectomy, even though I never told her about it? I thought it would explain why I doubted her, but I’m afraid it might just make things worse at this point.With a baby on the way, how do we begin to rebuild our relationship? I feel completely overwhelmed and could really use your advice on how to make things right.We appreciate your confidence in us, Tom, as you face this difficult situation. We’ve compiled 4 key suggestions to support you in addressing this issue and taking meaningful steps toward rebuilding your relationship with your wife.