Then the night before, she messaged me that she had to ‘make some hard decisions’ and ’uninvite me’. She also said that she still ‘wanted’ me to drop off the food. I told her I understood and respected her decision, but I would not be dropping off the food. She asked me why, and I told her it wouldn’t make any sense for me to drive 75 minutes to drop off

food to an event I was no longer invited to. The only reason I volunteered was because I was invited. She asked me how she was going to find someone to cater on such short notice and that it was hateful of me.A few friends sided with her, while most sided with me. I want to know from a stranger’s perspective if I messed up here.