While cleaning, I found a note from Matt’s ex, Teresa. She warned me: He won’t clean, won’t listen, and will make everything feel like your fault. Her words hit hard—I had been excusing his laziness and dismissive attitude for two years.When I confronted Matt, he got defensive, calling Teresa “crazy” and accusing me of overreacting. The more we argued, the clearer it became—this wasn’t just about cleaning. It was about respect. And he had ,

none for me.That night, I left to stay with a friend. The next day, with help, I packed my things while Matt was at work. Before leaving, I left my own note: Clean your dirty house.Later, I met Teresa. She wasn’t bitter, just relieved I got out. She confirmed what I already knew—Matt’s behavior wasn’t new, and it would never change. When I returned to grab my things, I found shattered dishes, ripped clothes, and my pets’ cage open. He had known I was leaving and lashed out.Six months later, he texted: I miss you. I’ve changed.I replied: No. But I hope you really have—for the next person’s sake. Then, I blocked him. Because healing isn’t just about leaving—it’s about never going back.